Want to enrich your marriage? Read the very important
information below by various pastors and click the lick for more.
What you will find below - Accepting your spouse
- Loving your Partner
- Singleness -
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Pastor Jackson At Smethwick Church
Marriage Enrichment
Accepting your Spouse 2013
1. When God tells us to do something, let us not just do it, let us do it well.
Ephesians 5 : 23-29
Discussion:
The husband is the head of the wife.
It describes how God said marriage should be.
Responsible for what goes under your headship.
Held accountable for what is in charge of the marriage.
It doesn't mean the other person can do what they want to do.
Marriage belongs to God. Your family belongs to God.
Pressure is put on many wives in the home.
True Story
"The woman run things at home"
The woman are the help meat, so therefore they are to help the man. Not do all of the work or even most of the work.
The man should be doing most of the work.
2. Present her to himself as radiant
Jesus is presenting the church as radiant.
Because of the love people should be that your wife is glowing and looking blessed spirally and physically.
Headship does not mean being a dominator. It's means spiritual leadership. Lead our homes to Christ.
Example: Sarah and Abraham. She called him lord. Because she respected him, and he respected her.
Don't follow what other generation used to do. Follow the Bible way.
3. Love your wife as your own body.
No one is perfect. One will be weaker in things so marriage is not perfect.
Extreme love means loving your wife and not exploiting her weakness.
1 Peter 3:7
Going into marriage for sex is the wrong choose. 24 hours in a day. Aprox 8 hours sleep. Aprox 8 hours working.
Aprox 1 hour to travel to work. Leaving 6 hours. Which will not be used for just sex.
Woman like when men take responsibility because that is the way God has created woman.
Physically weak, emotional,
Appreciating your spouse.
Appreciation and Love are twins.
Playing in the home is also vital.
If the person does not feel love and appreciated they will leave.
Pastor Gordon at Smethwick SDA Church 2013
Marriage enrichment
Loving your Partner
We are whole people coming into a relationship. Two people who are different coming together as you.
Don't expect the Hollywood dream.
The difference can be compliment (the best approach) or antagonistic (conflict). Both working together will work well.
You most understand each other and understand your self.
How we receive love and how we share love.
Seek to meet the needs of your spouse and the partner should meet your needs, that way both needs are met.
This will be a strength of a marriage.
You can say you are going to do something but saying it is different from doing it. Sometimes it's sweet when the job
is done unexpectedly.
Proverbs 12:18 Proverbs 15:1 Song of Solomon 2:14 James 1:17 John 13:13-15
Galatians 5:12-14. Mark 1:4. Mark 10:13-14
Love is a request and not a demand.
Quality time. Giving attention. Not spending time Yet Giving Time. Quality time with our self also. Treat your self well.
Plan time. Dinner at home together. Turn off the tv.
Switch the phone off. We have become people in a hurry.
Principles of quality. At least one of you want to do it. The other is willing to do it. Both of you know why you are doing it.
There is a level of difference in a relationship but If the difference is too wide it cam cause a problem.
Receiving gifts: a physical does not have to be the ultimate touch.
It most be about the one receiving the gift. Expressing love a emotion. The size of the gift is not important.
The principles of giving. Gifts you buy. Gifts you make. Gifts you sale.
Acts of service. Doing thing out of love. Doing a task to make a person happy. Not doing things because they say so
but because you want to.
Procaine is of service. Love is a choice. Service can be done out of love. If nothing comes back, it shouldn't matter because you should have done it out of love.
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch
Pastor P. Douglas at Smethwick SDA Church
Relationship Programme - linking to marriage enrichment
Singleness
1 Corinthian 7:1 it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
: 3,4 Obligations - you can not use your body for any thing until both agree.
: 5- don't withhold from your material duties. And don't use fasting and prayer as an excuses.
1 Corin 7:7, 8 it is good to stay single like Paul rather than sin.
1 Cor 7:32 singles care for the things of The Lord. Those who are married may care for the things of the world and
their partner.
: 34 the wife pleases her husband and the virgin cause for the things of The Lord.
:35 that you may depend upon The Lord without distraction.
Do you believe that 1+1=1 (1 person + 1 person make a whole person). Or do you believe 1/2 + 1/2 = 1
(two people are half and become one when they are together). That is wrong, we are all whole people.
Mat 19-5,6
We must become whole and complete in God before we are married. We should not hope that someone else will
complete us.
Content
Happy
Fulfilled
Steady
Colossians 2:9-10
1st 7 Corin :28 Paul wants to spare us from trouble. He wants us to attend on the word of The Lord without
distraction.
Singleness is a gift:
Manage your own time
Manage your own priorities
Manage your own friendship
Manage your own space
Manage your own relationship
Manage your own life's purpose
Manage your own intellectual development
Manage your own body
Manage your own life's plan
Manage your own values
Manages your own spiritual life
Manage your own financial investments
Philip 4:6,7 how do we know if we are complete
Be anxious for nothing
Our life will be filled With thanks giving
We will be at peace with God
When God gives us a gift, we should follow it and our lives will be successful and happy.
Difficulties are essential learning processes to grow.
